Once upon a time a new bride decided to whip up for dinner the duck her husband had shot, caught, whatever hunters do to wildlife after first declaring how beautiful those creatures are. I didn’t get it, but I was determined to make something tasty out of it--and yes, I followed a recipe. I wrapped the bird in bacon to keep it moist, and baked it for however many minutes at however many degrees.
Well, okay, possibly a few too many minutes at a few too many degrees--because what came out of the oven looked like…a hockey puck. Yes! A hockey puck!
Now in my recipe file under duck it just says, “Don’t make.”
Recipes are wonderful tools, in the right hands.
Have you seen this one?
(1) Figure out exactly what you want.
(2) Get your heart set on that. Want it so badly it hurts. Want it so much you’re embarrassed to admit how much you want it. Want it like a little kid wants something--with abandon.
(3) Go for it. Be gentle but determined, and stop at nothing in pursuit of your heart’s desire.
(4) Live happily ever after, or get your heart broken.
(5) Mark your lessons.
(6) Decide whether you still want what you want, or something else.
The most important step you’ll take, as the saying goes, is the first one. The most important part of that step, in my opinion, is to not settle. “Job hunters search for half their vision with half their hearts,” says What Color Is Your Parachute? author Dick Bolles, “which is why they fail before they start.”
I’ve been testing Dick’s advice for nineteen years, and can report the following…
When I've been so specific about what I wanted it attracted ridicule, the dream was much more likely to come true. It couldn’t be just any broadcasting internship, it had to be with this network in this city working for this person. It couldn’t be just any literary agent, it had to be this one…
It's common sense, I suppose. Good luck getting what you want if you settle for something else.
Laurie Kahn knows a little something about targeting a job search. She’s the founder of the Media Staffing Network, and matches people who want jobs like mine with people who have the power to hire them. Check it out!